and then i’ve read the well-actually replies

azu203:

thequantumqueer:

jasper-rolls:

there’s a difference between “just do a little yoga it will cure your depression forever :)” and “going for a run won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel a little better and that’s the first step” but this site seems to treat them as the same thing

the problem is that yoga/coconut oil/green tea/exercise/whatever is suggested by very nearly literally every perfect stranger who happens to find out that we’re disabled in any way.

it’s not “someone told me to do yoga and how could they think that’ll solve everything? im upset now”

it’s “this week alone 12 people have told me to try yoga as soon as they found out i can’t stand for more than a few minutes at a time without being in pain and gee darn why didn’t i think of that?”

it’s “i opened up about my mental illness because you seemed like an understanding but it turns out you’re the third person today who’s going to tell me that what i really need is some fresh air.”

it’s “you just need to eat this super food” “i can’t eat that for medical reasons” “well try just a little bit anyway you never know it might help”

it’s “you’ll never know what you can do if you don’t push yourself.” “i am pushing myself through intense pain just to be here with you having this conversation” “well that’s a depressing and defeatist attitude…”

it’s “going for a run won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel a little better and that’s the first step.” “you see my cane, right? i am physically unable to run.” “that’s ridiculous. i saw this story on the news about a kid who…”

“yoga” is shorthand for all of that in disability-speak, and we also have to deal with a truly absurd number of able-bodied neurotypical people who truly believe that if we “just do a little yoga it will cure your depression forever :)”

EDIT: holy shit i just looked at the notes and jesus fucking christ. you should do the same if you don’t believe me

When they say “the people on this site is so anti-recovery”, what they really mean is “how dare you invalids refuse to sacrifice your health, dignity, comfort, privacy, autonomy and general humanity for the rigorous public performance of a humbled repentant cripple”. Fuck that noise. If I have the financial means and competent, respectful healthcare providers that’s willing to help me with every concern I have, why wouldn’t I be open to the idea? Actually, fuck healthcare, if I could just have unlimited money, I could make the world my playground regardless of my disability. But we all know damn well either scenario will ever be a reality for most of us – poor, non white, gender non conforming, having no access to even basic healthcare let alone the very expensive specialised healthcare that we really need. Neither will the possibility that fucking strangers – both abled and even disabled, online and in real life – will offer us the tiny morsel of respect that we understand ourselves better than anyone to know or ways around our personal disabled life and keep their generic advices to themselves. It’s like they can’t sleep at night if they can’t pass on that worthless piece of knowledge to feel secure in the ignorance and illusion that the possibility of an abled life is just right there around the corner and we’re just too lazy/busy wallow in self pity/“anti recovery” to just reach out and get it.