Opinions on Kathryn Howard?

I like her; I really do not like when people are dismissive of her and say she was ‘foolish’ or term her a ‘fool’. It’s true she made some foolish decisions; but arguably Wolsey and Cromwell made some of their own, and yet I don’t read them referred to by such terms nearly as often. 

She was a good Queen, publicly followed protocol with grace and graciously; and used her influence as much as she was able. I’m tired of seeing her reduced to the relationships she had with men, I would love to read more about the relationships she had with other women.

Had that letter never been left in the chapel for Henry, I think it’s likely she would have been his last wife. It was a bit of a powder-keg of a situation, but it was Dereham that was probably more foolhardy and foolish than Katherine herself.

And yet, somehow, all the focus is on her and how she “knew what happened to Anne, so how could she ever have been so foolish as to write a letter like that to Culpeper”? It wasn’t a wise decision, to be sure, but Dereham was likely her senior and made, arguably, decisions that were even more reckless. 

That being said, I think the more important/relevant question to ask is how he could have been so foolish as to brag of his probable (what, today, would certainly legally be so) past abuse of Katherine when he likely knew five of Anne Boleyn’s alleged lovers had been executed on little more than rumors alone; one flirtatious comment from Smeaton and one angry one from Anne to Norris + the manipulation of a court faction, after all, had led to the swiftest and severest fall the Tudor court had ever seen, and it ruined men (and one woman) that were far more powerful than Dereham had ever been. 

Even if Dereham didn’t care about Katherine (which…by his actions, it seems he did not), one would at least think he would’ve kept his mouth shut out of self-preservation. 

Do you have any thoughts on what Anne’s plans for Elizabeth would have been if she lived, or how she would have influenced her daughter’s upbringing? (I’m thinking of COA commissioning Education of a Christian Woman for Mary, being involved in her education that way & wondering if Anne might’ve done similar)

I don’t know about upbringing exactly; I think probably an education that was similar to hers, a focus on languages (which seemed to be what ended up happening anyway, under Henry’s guidance, so maybe that would have been mutual). Evangelical-leaning tutors; if she could manage to secure some as she was sponsoring several scholars that were evangelical-leaning…perhaps Nicholas Bourbon, had he stayed. Anne and Henry were both composers themselves, so probably an immersive music education as well. And she’d want her to read City of Ladies, and works by Marguerite de Navarre.

She seemed to want a French marriage alliance for her (although that was rebuffed); I think had she had a son by that point, the betrothal of Elizabeth and the dauphin would probably have been secured (although he died in 1536, so…). Had Henry made an alliance with the Emperor; they would both try to secure a betrothal with the future Philip II of Spain. 

physichotic:

i feel a lot of people don’t understand the mistrust that many mentally ill/chronically ill/disabled people have towards healthcare practitioners.

it’s something that comes from years of misdiagnosis. the multiple doctors you meet who just don’t care. who accuse you of faking. who don’t take you or your symptoms seriously. whose own prejudices blind them to your plight. who belittle you. mock you. condescend to you. who don’t listen to you. who are lazy, cruel, uninformed.

i think it is so worth it to keep looking for doctors until you find the right fit because when you (finally) meet a doctor who gets it, who understands, and can treat you and help make things better or at least manageable and bearable, it’s a breath of fresh air.

but even so i really think we need to stop being so hard on people who are wary of doctors. sometimes they’re wary for a reason.