there’s a difference between “just do a little yoga it will cure your depression forever :)” and “going for a run won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel a little better and that’s the first step” but this site seems to treat them as the same thing
the problem is that yoga/coconut oil/green tea/exercise/whatever is suggested by very nearly literally every perfect stranger who happens to find out that we’re disabled in any way.
it’s not “someone told me to do yoga and how could they think that’ll solve everything? im upset now”
it’s “this week alone 12 people have told me to try yoga as soon as they found out i can’t stand for more than a few minutes at a time without being in pain and gee darn why didn’t i think of that?”
it’s “i opened up about my mental illness because you seemed like an understanding but it turns out you’re the third person today who’s going to tell me that what i really need is some fresh air.”
it’s “you just need to eat this super food” “i can’t eat that for medical reasons” “well try just a little bit anyway you never know it might help”
it’s “you’ll never know what you can do if you don’t push yourself.” “i am pushing myself through intense pain just to be here with you having this conversation” “well that’s a depressing and defeatist attitude…”
it’s “going for a run won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel a little better and that’s the first step.” “you see my cane, right? i am physically unable to run.” “that’s ridiculous. i saw this story on the news about a kid who…”
“yoga” is shorthand for all of that in disability-speak, and we also have to deal with a truly absurd number of able-bodied neurotypical people who truly believe that if we “just do a little yoga it will cure your depression forever :)”
EDIT: holy shit i just looked at the notes and jesus fucking christ. you should do the same if you don’t believe me
When they say “the people on this site is so anti-recovery”, what they really mean is “how dare you invalids refuse to sacrifice your health, dignity, comfort, privacy, autonomy and general humanity for the rigorous public performance of a humbled repentant cripple”. Fuck that noise. If I have the financial means and competent, respectful healthcare providers that’s willing to help me with every concern I have, why wouldn’t I be open to the idea? Actually, fuck healthcare, if I could just have unlimited money, I could make the world my playground regardless of my disability. But we all know damn well either scenario will ever be a reality for most of us – poor, non white, gender non conforming, having no access to even basic healthcare let alone the very expensive specialised healthcare that we really need. Neither will the possibility that fucking strangers – both abled and even disabled, online and in real life – will offer us the tiny morsel of respect that we understand ourselves better than anyone to know or ways around our personal disabled life and keep their generic advices to themselves. It’s like they can’t sleep at night if they can’t pass on that worthless piece of knowledge to feel secure in the ignorance and illusion that the possibility of an abled life is just right there around the corner and we’re just too lazy/busy wallow in self pity/“anti recovery” to just reach out and get it.
A man came to my university to give a talk about past lives and reincarnation. I was there with some people from my major. The man said that he and his team, specialized in the matter and had found a way to discover who someone had been in a past life through a written test. To demonstrate, he picked out one of my classmates. Without even giving him the test, he looked at him and said: “You, for instance, were Louis XIV”. Everyone suddenly got very angry and started shouting at my classmate, demanding from him to explain why he hadn’t said so sooner. I was so mad, I had to leave the room.
Don’t beat yourself up if you’re chronically ill and can’t exercise as frequently as you’d like to.
Exercise is often recommended as a treatment for chronic fatigue and pain, but those symptoms make it difficult to exercise. A lot of people with chronic pain and fatigue, myself included, experience an increase in symptoms during and after physical activity. It can be hard to find the time for exercise if you know you’ll need a few hours to recover afterwards, and it’s difficult to motivate yourself to do something you know will leave you in even more pain.
Doctors and mostly healthy people often don’t understand these challenges, but don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about how much you do or don’t exercise. Try your best and don’t stress.
Stop all that “you attract what you are ready for” shit. Sometimes life is just terrible. It’s not always my fault.
“Life never gives you more than you can handle.” Yes, it does.
“People are placed in your life to teach you a valuable lesson that helps your soul on its way to enlightenment.” No, there are a just a lot of people who feel empowered when they act like assholes. We live in that kind of society.
“You keep finding yourself in the same situation because you haven’t discovered the message the universe is trying to send to you yet.” Sometimes unpleasant things are stuck on repeat, because you have a mental or physical condition, and it is a symptom. Symptoms are like that.
“The truth always hurts.” No, it doesn’t, and what hurts often isn’t the truth, but is instead someone’s biased opinion.
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The top was probably after she recovered from the Sweat (that was like a pinnacle reunion scene like…I don’t think anything has topped it since, on any period drama, altho this came pretty close).
Sadly, the thing about Tudors was that their relationship wasn’t actually very well-developed or well-written? So tbh I don’t think there were that many romantic moments between the two of them on the show, or not as much as there should have been, at any rate.
We know they’re in the love but we don’t know, like…why. We don’t really see them talk to each other about their families, their childhoods, their hopes and dreams and fears; so in that way it was very Tell-Not-Show:
Worse, the earthshaking union between Henry and Anne is nearly as talky. She wants to be queen, he wants her to be queen (I’ll spare you the 15 versions of this conversation), but the pair, pretty and unknowable, lack any clear reason why they’re so smitten. The audience is expected to take their word for it — and there are plenty of words, just few that resonate. In one scene, a triumphantly pregnant Anne giddily declares a craving for apples, and she becomes a real person, but The Tudors provides too few of those moments. Instead, Henry and Anne nag and harp and tongue each other. It’s like asking us to root for a particularly vapid reality TV couple.
Some of this was, I think, due to limited screentime (and the time jump in between s1 and s2), and had they not done the storyline where Norfolk and Thomas Boleyn are pushing/manouevering Anne into the relationship they probably would’ve had a better arc. Because tbh, that took up a lot of time.
We don’t see that many intimate moments between them (not even them waking up with each other), most are focused on sex. Which is a shame, imo, because I think their relationship was about a lot more than just sex but that’s often what it’s reduced to.
Anyway, I’ll pull a few from my tag that I like, those I use for inspo:
this one she’s not technically in but it’s about her and i </3 :
there’s likely a significant connection between the prevalence of depression in the United States and our extreme wealth disparity (we have the highest wealth inequality in the world, Sweden and the U.K. falling behind us); but it’s trendier to blame it on how we’re ‘too fat’, ‘don’t exercise enough’, and are not eating organic enough or w/e 🙂
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